Autism at Kingwood is pleased to be able to offer the following free training materials to help parents, carers and practitioners with strategies, resources and practical tips on how to support autistic people with sexuality and relationships.

The materials were filmed from a live conference with additional question and answer sessions included to support the material covered. The five parts are offered below.

The resources will also be available to order on DVD from our online shop shortly, or please contact info@kingwood.org.uk to place an advance order. The DVD’s will be free of charge, but P&P will be payable at £1.50. Combined postage for more than one DVD may be possible on request.

We hope you will find them useful and informative.

Autism, sexuality and relationships - Part 1

Topics covered include: Introduction from Dame Stephanie Shirley; Sexuality: what is it? ; How do we learn about sexuality; Sex education for people with ASC; Typical adolescent development; What is the same for autistic people; Supporting autistic people to fulfil their relationship and sexual needs.

Autism, sexuality and relationships, part 2

Topics covered include: How is sex education different for people with Autistic Spectrum Condition (ASC); Differences in physical and cognitive development; Concrete thinking; Theory of Mind skills; Vulnerability of autistic people; Positive aspects that Asperger Syndrome brings to a relationship.

Autism, sexuality and relationships part 3

Topics covered include: Issues at puberty; Sexual development; Inappropriate attachments; Social etiquette; Sexual offences act – what support can family and practitioners offer; Sexual orientation; Masturbation; Fetishism; Tangled webs- delayed emotional development and individuation; Increased risk of victimisation; Sensory issues.

Autism, sexuality and relationships part 4

Topics covered include: Gender confusion and dysphoria; Vulnerability through lack of Theory of Mind; Obsessions and fetishism; How to progressively teach appropriate sexual behaviour; Consent

Autism, sexuality and relationships part 5

Topics covered include: How to provide help and support; Obsessions/stalking; Sex offending; What should be taught when.

Sexuality and ASD : Additional Resources

  • Sexuality – your sons and daughters with Intellectual Disabilities by Karin Schwier and Dave Hingsburger (written specially for parents and very readable. Whilst not referring to ASD directly most of the principles still apply)
  • “Me and Us” is a website dedicated to resources for teaching people with learning disabilities about sexuality with lots of onward links. It is no longer trading but a lot of information is still available through the website.  www.me-and-us.co.uk

DVDs/Videos are available which provide a more visual way of presenting sex ed information:

  • Jason’s Private World Video This video teaching pack is for use by males with learning difficulties in support of general sex-education. The video has strong emphasis on consent and how to both say ‘no’ and understand when someone else says ‘no’. Also emphasised is the use of condoms for safer sex. Topics covered include: Growing up and the body changes from childhood to adulthood, self examination and privacy, masturbation and privacy, personal hygiene, bathing and privacy, sex, relationships, love and affection, consent, how to use condoms  and where to get condoms and advice.
  • Kylie’s Private World  for females with special needs/learning disabilities to support sex-education. The DVD has strong emphasis on consent and how to say “no”. First periods and sanitary protection and the use of condoms for safer sex also are explained.
  • You, Your Body & Sex ~ the DVD  featuring all the content from Jason’s Private World and Kylie’s Private World with additional material arranged into easily accessible topics. Now with very clear English subtitles. lifesupportproductions.co.uk/order.php
  • Hand Made Love. A guide for teaching about male masturbation through video by Dave Hingsburger. Unlike many masturbation tapes, this one places the act of self pleasure in context. Steve, the narrator, discusses privacy, pleasure and the realities of sharing living spaces with others. He also talks about sex and desire. While setting the stage to demonstrate masturbation, he speaks in plain language that is fully respectful of the needs of the viewer. As the discussion becomes more private there are opportunities for the viewer to decide if they would like to continue watching or stop. The guidebook discusses masturbation from the point of health and pleasure. Dave writes about both systemic issues and the right of the individual to privacy. He uses examples to illustrate his points and suggests ways to build healthy environments for adults. The book also includes a consultation on masturbation for clinical staff. Suggestions are made as to how to use the video in teaching about such a private topic. Explicit. Aimed at adolescents and adults.
  • Finger Tips. Teaching women with disabilities about masturbation through video by Dave Hingsburger, Sandra Haar and a committee of 9 women. Sandra Haar, in the video, discusses the myths and misconceptions about masturbation and provides a clear “how to” demonstration. Using gentle encouragements and giving lots of opportunities for the viewer to work through the material, Sandra attempts to ensure that the viewing experience is both educational and therapeutic. The book helps place the whole subject of female masturbation into context of the lives of women with disabilities. The book challenges the reader to think about how society has dealt with female sexual pleasure. Throughout the book there are “reflection pauses” which encourage the reader to stop and think about a variety of issues that rise from the text. Liberally using humour the book is also a fun read, from the “Myth of the Mighty Sperm” to “The 12 steps of Female Arousal” the book covers a lot of ground. Explicit. Aimed at adolescents and adults.